June 13, 2011

The Mindset of a Hater: Why Haters Hate


Haters are everywhere. They are pretty much in every facet of life nowadays. If there is something you like, I can guarantee that somewhere in this world, someone hates on that same thing. There is constructive criticism, and there is blind hatefulness. We all do it from time to time, but there are other individuals whose sole purpose in life is to hate, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. These are the individuals that I will dissect and find out what makes them so hateful.

First off, I want to differentiate between “stating your opinion,” and “being a hater.” For example, if you begin to listen to a song or watch a sport and after that, you say that you did not like it, then that is stating your opinion because you had a basic understanding of that thing. However, if you talk ill of something you do not know about or understand, or make a backhanded negative assumption about something you did not watch or listen to, then that makes you a hater.

One of the most popular reasons why haters love to hate is because they have no lives of their own. They find no happiness in the lives they attempt to live in, so they try to feel good about themselves by trashing everything that they do not like and do not understand. They love to be judgmental, especially about something they do not know about. They are also very insecure. Haters try to put up a fake, tough exterior about them, but inside, they are very troubled people that are fighting an internal struggle of their own. Haters are very mediocre people, and when they surround themselves with other haters, it makes them feel good, because they can look to each other for approval. It is unfortunate these days that many people are concerned with the opinions of others, especially the haters.

Another reason why haters love to hate so much is jealousy. It is human nature to compare yourself to others. When haters hear of or see a person having some sort of success, they take it upon themselves to bring them down a notch and make them feel guilty of their success. There is a bit of an inferiority complex. The hater feels inferior to the successful person, and attempts to bring them down to their level. Ultimately, how I see it, the hater secretly wants to be like the successful person, but they will not admit that, because of their fake, tough exterior.

Ultimately, what you have to do is just ignore it. It is a tough thing to do, but it is important to make the haters look like the fools themselves. Most cases, if you try to engage them, they will not understand where you are coming from and they will continue their hate. It is important to get rid of the negative influences in your life, and replace them with the positive ones. Instead of having friends who hate on everything, have friends who compliment you and encourage you in your endeavors. It is a way that you can be a more positive person yourself, as well as an independent individual.

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